It's easy to get offended when someone insults you, but taking a page from French philosopher Simone Weil and framing their action as a form of theft, where the insulter takes something they lack from the insulted, can provide a sense of perspective, writes Jonny Thomson, founder of Mini Philosophy. Asking what they want (whether they are feeling overwhelmed or undervalued) can lead us to forgive them and seek to help them get their needs met, Thomson writes.
Put it into practice: When we refuse to forgive someone who we feel has wronged us, the burden shifts from them to us because we are resentful, Thomson writes. "When you feel wronged in some way, try to remember the human behind the wrongdoing."
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As the year comes to a close, it's a perfect time to reflect on your achievements and challenges, writes executive coach Joel Garfinkle, who suggests celebrating your accomplishments by documenting key wins and their impacts, which can be helpful for future performance reviews. Reflecting on your growth helps set meaningful goals for the upcoming year, ensuring you start with a clear vision and renewed motivation, Garfinkle writes.
Put it into practice: Taking a break during the holiday season is essential for long-term performance, writes Garfinkle. "Use the holidays to strengthen personal bonds. Revisit hobbies, enjoy quality time and create memories that remind you why you work so hard."
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Both you and your employees often dread performance appraisals with employees overwhelmed by feedback and you, as a leader, struggling to complete reviews, but regular one-on-one meetings can alleviate these issues by helping you remember achievements over a longer period, avoiding surprises in feedback and strengthening relationships, writes Get Lighthouse CEO Jason Evanish. "If your team members feel you care about them as individuals and understand what motivates them, they are going to be much more receptive to your feedback and coaching," Evanish writes.
Put it into practice: Use one-on-one meetings to chart the progress of your direct reports in the coming year by setting goals, checking in and reinforcing good habits, Evanish writes. "All these discussions keep the focus on ongoing improvement and progress."
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How well do you take advantage of slower times of the year to get some rest?
Very well: when things slow down, so do I
21.87%
Well: I could stand to take a little more rest though
40.47%
Not well: I tend to keep pushing hard even though things around me are slow
28.83%
Poorly: I never stop pushing regardless of how slow things around me get
8.83%
Give yourself a break! Thirty-eight percent of you report not doing a good job of taking advantage of slower times of the year and giving yourself some rest. It can be hard to turn off the intensity of your regular approach to work but learn to cherish the slow times and let yourself rest and recover. The fast times will return -- I guarantee it.
By adjusting your pace and accepting a "breather" provided by the environment around you, you're letting your body and mind recover from periods of prolonged stress. That recovery is essential for your health and welfare. Being rested will also help you adapt more quickly when fast times emerge again.
Don't let yourself fall into the trap of continuing to push hard when everyone else is dialing down the intensity. You'll be sorry you didn't give yourself a break when everything starts moving rapidly again!
-- Mike Figliuolo is managing director of thoughtLEADERS, which includes TITAN -- the firm's e-learning platform. Previously, he worked at McKinsey & Co., Capital One and Scotts Miracle-Gro. He is a West Point graduate and author of three leadership books: "One Piece of Paper,""Lead Inside the Box" and "The Elegant Pitch."
Which of the following is the biggest mistake you see new leaders make?
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It's easy to get triggered when someone insults us. It reminds me of a time, many years ago, when I went to a workshop with a couple of authors who had written a book that sparked protests wherever they spoke. One of the authors said he coped by not taking anything a critic said personally. He recounted a story where a woman was inches from his face, yelling at him, and he said all he could think was, "What has hurt her so badly that something I wrote could trigger such anger?"
This author knew that when we get angry with another person, it's usually about us and not about them. What they said triggered something unhealed in us. Yelling back at the woman would have done no good and only deepened both her wounds and his.
Jonny Thomson's suggestion to follow Simone Weil's advice is sound. Weil believed that those who insult us or wrong us are acting from their pain and suffering. Instead of reacting in anger, Weil suggested using compassion, resisting retaliation and recognizing the dignity of the other person. This is what that author did. He spoke kindly to the angry woman, and while she remained angry, he didn't make the situation worse.
To practice this, try to pause and reflect whenever you feel wronged and ask:
What pain or suffering may be causing this person to act this way?
How can I respond in a way that affirms their dignity rather than causing more harm?
Can I transform my hurt feelings into an opportunity for growth and empathy?
Weil's approach is not easy, but it can be profoundly transformative by helping us to prioritize love and understanding over vengeance or self-righteousness.
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